Parenting

8 Ways to Love Our Children Well

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“For I want you to understand what really matters, so that you may live pure and blameless lives until the day of Christ’s return.” – Philippians 1:10 NLT

I was so fortunate to have been raised by a mother who was extremely intentional in her parenting. Though she worked full time, she was attentive in every area of my life, always finding time to connect in meaningful ways. 

For example, she was deliberate in getting to know my friends. If she sensed a bad vibe from someone, she let me know. I quickly learned her discernment was spot on. 

Today, friends routinely connect over social media. As many of us know, the connection between social media and poor mental health is well documented. 

With that said, it is more important than ever in this technology-connected world to parent with intentionality. When children are genuinely loved, valued, and connected to a family unit, security and confidence flourish. 

The following are some parenting ideas you might consider that will positively impact your children’s lives for the long-term. 

  1. Encourage your children. Look for what they do well and share your affirmation. This will encourage their hearts and build confidence.
  2. Be available when they want to talk. Bedtime and late at night are when some of the most meaningful conversations take place. You may find yourself tired and not in the mood but push through. It’s such a gift when they open up (especially boys!).
  3. Provide a safe harbor. Home needs to be a safe, positive, and encouraging environment for your children. 
  4. If possible and safe, help them establish fruitful relationships with grandparents and extended family. Raising kids takes a village, and everyone will benefit from these additional relationships.
  5. Do things together as a family. You might have a weekly or monthly family night. Plan a favorite meal and let them know you are making it especially for them. Play games. Watch a movie. Ride bikes. Take a walk. Go to a ballgame. Bottom line – kids love repetitive activities done as a family because they foster security and demonstrate love.
  1. Discipline them. Poor behavior or a disrespectful mouth are not acceptable. You are called to be their mother, not their friend. Friendship will come in time when they are adults. 
  2. Stay on top of their online activity. Place parameters on access. Monitor what they post and view. Know who they’re following. Take their phones at night or have them leave them in a common area outside of their bedrooms. Make sure they know the phone belongs to you, and you can access 24/7. All of these actions will give you great insight into your children and help protect them. 
  3. Pray for your children. This is the most important thing you can do, especially as they grow older. If you do not have Prayer Made Simple, Fighting for our Family and Friends in Prayer, I urge you to get a copy. Prayer makes a big difference. 

I encourage you to put these above parenting ideas into practice. Yes, doing so requires great intentionality and sacrifice. For me, that sometimes meant limiting my own screen time or making decisions that often would anger my kids. And it usually meant being their mom instead of their friend. 

However, my kids are now in their early 20’s, and we have entered a season where we are good friends. The foundation for today’s friendship was built in large part because I consistently tried to put into practice these eight ideas. And now that I have young adult children and am experiencing the joys of their friendships, I can confidently say it is so worth it! So, mothers, keep persevering – it will be worth it for you too!

UNAFRAID

JOSHUA 1:9
“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”

September 8-10, 2023

FOR MOMS AND DAUGHTERS 6TH – 12TH GRADE
CAMP WILLOW SPRINGS – LAKE GASTON, NC

Little Strength, Big God

Speaker: Debbie Wilson

Wednesday, September 13th

 

Author: Tara